Have you ever wondered who They are?

They come up often in the Weekend Workshops that I facilitate.  The conversation goes something like this:

They will think I’m crazy


They say you shouldn’t ( fill in the blank)


I worry about what They will say or think.

And then I ask the person saying these things, “Who are They?”

The person stops, thinks, and generally responds, “I don’t know.”

When asked to get specific about this, They character the identity is fleeting.

They become a term of generalization.  A word filler at best but mostly an excuse not to take responsibility for how one feels or acts.

You see, we get used to speaking in a certain way and using words and phrases that are either meaningless or untrue.  The next time you find yourself in a rut of using ineffective language, I invite you to stop and be aware of what you are saying.  Define who They are, and get clear about who and what you are speaking to.  Take responsibility for your words.  What you say and how you say it can change everything.

And besides that, who cares what They think?